First Date. Remember who was who.
Walk in with three good questions. Come home to an honest check-in with yourself. First Date keeps every date straight, and shows you your own patterns.
First Date is a private journal for dating life. Before a date it hands you three questions picked for what you're looking for; afterwards, a guided reflection asks how you felt on the way home and whether you'd see them again. Safety check-ins, a fake call and voice memos are part of the free journal, and everything stays on your iPhone. No account, no server.
- Works solo — partner optional
- Pro is one payment — no subscription
The private dating journal for before, during and after the date.
Before you go
Three questions for tonight, picked for what you're looking for (casual, long-term, marriage or just exploring) and for the interests you share. Shuffle for another set, and write a one-line intention; your reflection asks about it afterwards.
A reflection that gets past “it was fine”
Sixteen hand-written questions, three at a time. How did you feel on the way home: like yourself, energised, calm, unsure, on edge or drained? Would you see them again? Tag what felt good and what gave you pause.
Safety you stay in charge of
Set a check-in reminder and it opens the right date, with a pre-filled text to a contact you chose that you send yourself. A fake incoming call gives you an easy exit, and the safety guide works with no signal. First Date does not contact emergency services and is not a monitoring service.
Your patterns, month by month
Quick stats across your own history are free. With Pro, month-by-month trends show your last six months of dates, your average rating, how often you came home feeling like yourself and whether “yes, again” became a second date, plus a “How you left” filter and written patterns once you've logged ten people.
Private, and locked if you like
No account, no server, no feed. Your journal stays on your iPhone, voice memos are transcribed on the device, and a Face ID lock (with your passcode as a fallback) keeps it yours.
Pro is one payment
The free journal holds your first five people and keeps safety check-ins, the fake call, voice memos with transcripts, guided reflection, date-night questions, the Face ID lock, screenshot import and conversation prompts. First Date Pro adds unlimited people, deeper filters, monthly trends and written patterns, for one payment. It never renews.
Dating, with a memory
A good week of dating is a blur by the weekend — names, jobs, which one had the dog.
You walk in with nothing planned and spend the first hour on small talk.
You come home, say “it was fine”, and the feeling you had on the way home is gone by morning.
First Date gives you three good questions before you go, and a few honest ones after.
Date with a memory, and the patterns stop being a surprise.
Made for you.
People actively dating several people
A good week of dating is a blur by Friday — keep them straight.
Anyone who keeps repeating the same pattern
Write it down and the patterns stop being a surprise.
Private daters who want no feed and no pairing
Your dating life is nobody’s business but yours.
How it actually feels.
Tuesday's date is in the journal, so on the way there you open its Before you go card: three questions and one line of intention. On the way home you tap how you felt and whether you'd see them again, and by date five the little flags you would have talked yourself out of are right there in your own words.
Questions, answered.
Is First Date private?
Yes. There's no account, no server and no feed. Your journal stays on your iPhone, voice memos are transcribed on the device, and you can lock it with Face ID, with your passcode as a fallback.
What does it give me before a date?
Each upcoming date gets a Before you go card: three questions picked for your dating goal (casual, long-term, marriage or exploring) and for the interests you share, Shuffle for another set, and a one-line intention that your reflection asks about afterwards.
What's free?
The journal holds your first five people, with safety check-ins, the fake call, voice memos with transcripts, guided reflection, date-night questions, the Face ID lock, screenshot import and conversation prompts. First Date Pro adds unlimited people, deeper filters, month-by-month trends and written patterns.
Is First Date Pro a subscription?
No. One payment, no subscription: First Date Pro never renews. The App Store shows the price before you buy, and you can restore it any time from Settings.
Does First Date contact anyone for me?
No. A check-in reminder asks whether you're home safe and, if you don't confirm, opens a pre-filled text to a contact you chose, which you send yourself. First Date does not contact emergency services, does not share your live location and is not a monitoring service. If you are in danger, call your local emergency number.
Do I need to be in a relationship to use it?
No — it's built for the dating part, when you're meeting different people and trying to keep them straight. It works solo; partner optional.
Is First Date for couples?
No — it is built for one person doing the dating, with no pairing and no partner needed. If you are past the dating stage, our couples apps like Wend pick up from there.
Will it tell me who to date?
No verdicts. Guided reflection and your own stats help you notice your patterns, and you decide what they mean.
